Monday, December 9, 2013

Happy Sinterklaas!

As the Dutch know well, December 6th is a magical day - it is the day Sinterklaas (or St. Nicholas) comes to town! It was an especially magical Sinterklaas day for us this year.  We spent some time preparing, and getting the kids excited for it.  We even borrowed some books and videos from the library that talked about St. Nicholas and what he has to do with Christmas.  More about this later.  For now, here are some pictures of Sinterklaas 2013.  
  
The girls were both ecstatic about their wooden shoes. 
After laying the shoes out by the door, along with a plate full of lettuce for Sinterklaas' horse Amerigo, it was time for bed.
The next morning we woke the girls up early to some Sinterklaas music, and they ran out to see see what was in their shoes.


Paisley was happy to find some drop (Dutch black licorice) in her shoes.




And she was thrilled to unwrap her favorite Christmas movie (Elf).
Sinterklaas was also kind enough to stop by Grandma's house in Canada and pick up a little package for the girls.
I think Paisley was pretty excited about that one too.  What do you think?

Meanwhile, Afton devoured the licorice and pepernoten (little gingerbread cookies).
She couldn't be bothered to pose for a picture.
The girls and I spent the day making kerstkranjes (Dutch wreath cookies) for our Sinterklaas party that night.  These are yummy to eat and look nice tied with some ribbon and hung on a Christmas tree!

At the party in the evening, there was lots of yummy food - stuffed pork, fried mushrooms, cinnamon glazed carrots, olliebollen, speculaas,Wassail, vla and more.  We ate, sang Sinterklaas songs (with horrible pronunciation, I'm sure), visited with good people and even had a pretend Sinterklaas where all the kids pretended to be asleep and their shoes were filled with treats.  




Naturally, while the other babies look at the camera, Afton is eyeing baby-in-pink's sucker, which she promptly grabbed seconds after this picture.  

All in all, it was a day of culture, friendship, food, gifts and fun.  Of course the reason we celebrate Dutch Christmas is because David is Dutch, and we want to keep those traditions alive. But it also gave us a chance to spend some time learning about St. Nicholas.  I've often wondered what Santa Claus has to do with the birth of Christ, or whether it's just a way of promoting all the commercialism surrounding Christmas.  Without going into all the details of his story, St. Nicholas was a man who found joy in giving.  His parents died when he was young, and he found that what brought him happiness was bringing happiness to others through the giving of gifts.

 If there is going to be any commercializing of the celebration of this season celebrating Christ's birth, I'm glad that it is centered around a good, loving man who gave from the kindness of his heart. After all, this is exactly what the Savior did.  He gave willingly and unselfishly, even to the giving of His own life.  There are many legends of St. Nicholas giving to those who were in desperate need.  And there is no better time than Christmas to remember how desperately we each need the eternal gift that the Savior gave to each of us.

I provided a link for a Veggie Tales movie above, and I just want to share the part I found most touching. Hope you enjoy as much as I did!  Happy Sinterklaas and Merry Christmas.

Sunday, October 20, 2013

Football, Ferris Wheels and Fun at the Pumpkin Patch

If I ever had doubts about how much I would love living in Texas - and people, I did - it was only because I had never been here in October.  70 degrees and sunny, with tons of fun things to do, without the fear that it just may be the last day before winter banishes us all to our burrows for 4+ months?  Yes, please.

To kick off the month of October, we watched General Conference.  It was probably one of my favorites ever.  Is it just me or do they keep getting better?  It was so nice to have a couple of lazy days, together as a family, eating, sleeping and being spiritually uplifted and edified.

To make up for all that rest and relaxation, the next weekend we decided to head on up to Dallas for a little football game and fun at the Texas State Fair.  David was able to find a ticket to the Texas vs. Oklahoma rivalry game, just a few seats down from his good friend from work.  No one expected the Longhorns to win, but David had a good feeling, and he was right!  If you ask David about the best moments of his life, that game is now ranked up there with our wedding day and the birth of our children.
Tallest ferris wheel in North America

Big Tex, with the Cotton Bowl Stadium in the background

The big game



View from the ferris wheel
While in Dallas, we had the pleasure of staying with the Hay family again.  I cannot say enough of my love for this family.   I won't embarrass them by telling all the details of their kindness and hospitality, but I will say this: I know few people as welcoming, loving, and genuine as this family.  They are so sweet with our little girls, and I truly feel like I'm at home when I'm in their home. Though our decision to go to Dallas was somewhat spur-of-the-moment, and they had a million reasons to be less than entirely hospitable, they made us feel like nothing could have made them happier.  Now I know that no family is perfect, but when I think about being Christ-like, I think there are few people who have achieved this as well as the Hays, and I'm a better person for having been in their home.

Sweet Berry Farms

We celebrated Afton's 1st birthday this Saturday by driving an hour out into the country to Sweet Berry Farms.  The weather was perfect, and we all had a blast.  We visited with the goats, rode the Sweet Berry Express, went through a corn maze in the shape of Texas, rode horses, ate strawberry popsicles and pumpkin spice ice cream and finally, chose a perfect pumpkin for carving.
Paisley was thrilled about the goats

Afton was thrilled too, until a goat came close to her.  Then she was just terrified.







Paisley had a blast on the giant trampoline thingy, though she didn't get much time on her feet.

Afton's birthday morning and her new birthday toys

The Sweet Berry Express, led by farmer Joe


Our little cowgirl rode solo

Afton let me ride with her



Saturday, October 19, 2013

Afton's First Birthday!

I can hardly believe it's been a whole year since we welcomed this little bundle of sunshine into the world.  I wish I could tell you of the moments of amusement, laughter, exasperation, triumph, tenderness, and growth that we have experienced over this first year of Afton's life.  I wish that by posting these pictures of Afton I could communicate what a sweet, playful, spunky character she is, or how my heart nearly bursts when I look at those big bright eyes of hers.  As I don't think any words of mine will do these things justice, I'll just post some pictures and tell you about some of her traits at 12 months old, and hope you catch a small glimpse of the joy she brings us every day.  


 Afton's loves:

  • Walking
  • Swimming
  • Eating
  • Waking Paisley after naps
  • Running up to Daddy when he gets home
  • The bath tub (mostly dumping water out of it)
  • The word 'Dada", over and over again
  • Throwing food from the high chair to the floor
  • Swinging at the park
  • Anything Paisley is playing with
  • Flushing/opening/playing in the toilet
  • Unraveling toilet paper
  • Being held & cuddling
  • Growling like a lion cub



Afton started walking a few weeks ago, and she's getting more and more confident.  It's so fun to watch her beaming smile of triumph when she gets to places she wants to go.


 Random facts about Afton:

  • She LOVES her sister Paisley.  They fight over toys all the time, but they're the best friends in the world.
  • She *still* wakes up once a night, nurses and goes back to sleep.  This is a HUGE improvement, even from 2 months ago, so I'm happy as can be.  
  • Her first word was "Mama", but she's traded that one in for "Dada", and can't get enough of it.
  • She loves to give and blow kisses, making a loud "BAH" sound.  And lately she just loves to say BAH, kiss or no kiss.
  • We're just learning that she's pretty terrified of animals.  


Thursday, October 3, 2013

The Media Fast Challenge

In a recent blog post, I began by stating that there just aren't enough hours in a day.  I have had this feeling a lot recently - an increasing amount, actually.  There’s just not enough time to do everything that needs to be done, and everything I want to do, all in one day.  Or week.  Or lifetime, perhaps. Well, tonight I think I found the solution. 

I went to an information session at church about media use and addiction.  I wasn't sure I wanted to go, but let’s face it – I needed to get out of the house.  The main topics covered were: 1) Sharing the gospel of Jesus Christ through media; 2) Internet Safety; and 3) Technology Addiction, including, but not limited to, pornography.  This is some of what I took away from it, and what eventually led me to my epiphany (or inspiration, if you will):

  • Technology can be used for such good, but the adversary also uses it to distract us from good things we could be doing, and to bring us down to eventual destruction. 
  • We need to keep our use of technology in check, by asking ourselves 1) does this invite or impede the Holy Ghost in my life? 2) Does it enlarge or restrain my capacity to love, lift, and serve others  
  • This quote:
    • “If the adversary cannot entice us to misuse our physical bodies, then one of his most potent tactics is to beguile you and me as embodied spirits to disconnect gradually and physically from things as they really are… And, if we let him, he can cunningly employ some aspects of modern technology to accomplish his purposes.  Please be careful of becoming so immersed and engrossed in pixels, texting, earbuds, twittering, online social networking, and potentially addictive uses of media and the internet that you fail to recognize the importance of your physical body and miss the richness of person-to-person communication.” –David A. Bednar

Lastly, one girl spoke about a particularly trying time in her life.  She was inspired to cut out technology from her life for a week - a "media fast", as she called it - including television, texting, facebook, non-essential emailing, etc.  She said that cutting out all of the noise allowed her to follow our Heavenly Father’s invitation to, “Be still, and know that I am God”. 


In my case, I am not going through a particularly hard time; in fact, life has never been quite so good!  But at the end of the evening, I had a strong feeling that if I will cut out all those non-essentials (i.e., all-too-frequent facebook checking, email reading, t.v. watching, etc) even just for a week, I will be a more patient and loving mother.  I will be more present with my little girls.  I will be more focused on things that really matter. My priorities will become clearer in my mind.  I will have a greater portion of the Spirit of the Lord with me.  And of course, having cleared all the extra clutter out of my day, I will have time to do the things that need to be done, as well as the worthwhile things I want to do.  There is my solution, now it’s time to put it to the test.  Feel free to join in!  I'll let you know how it goes.

Thursday, September 19, 2013

That's What It's All About

The days are just not long enough.  And yet they are much, much too long.  Some days, especially this week, I find myself wondering if the day will ever end.  One of the ironies of life I suppose.

Today is Thursday.  David has been in San Antonio since Monday.  Lately the girls take turns having naps when they nap at all, and I'm basically on baby duty from  7 a.m. till 9 p.m., and often through the night, though Afton is sleeping better and better these days.

At the risk of sounding very negative, I will admit that sometimes I grow weary of it all.  The endless dishes and laundry, the accidents, the whining, the shrieking, the policing.  Sometimes I want time to myself.  And when I finally get it, there are so many things I want to do - update the blog, write in my journal, update baby books, clean, draw, read, sleep - that it never seems like enough.

 But then -   

But then my two-year-old gets scared by a loud car and runs to me, grabbing hold of my hand.  She looks up at me, unsure of herself, and I squeeze her hand and smile back.  She, in all her innocence and warmth, snuggles into my leg and says, "I love you Mama."

Afton is learning to walk, and she is so so close.  I stand her up and back away, coaxing her toward me.  She is thrilled.  She's excited and unsure and so proud with each independent step she takes.  She gets within a foot of me and she falls forward into my arms, not doubting for a second that I'll catch her.  I shower her with snuggles and kisses and we all cheer and I wonder if this isn't both of our favorite part.

Paisley tears around the house, looking for whatever catches her interest.  She spots something I've just put away, gets it out, makes a little mess, and then she's on to the next thing.  Before long, she knocks something over, spills something, or breaks something.  I notice.  She watches for my reaction with large apologetic eyes.  In a split second, I need to decide how to react.  This time, I laugh. (Not always my first reaction, believe it or not).  A huge, happy smile wipes over her face and she laughs and cuddles up to me.  There's a hint of gratitude in this gesture, I know.  She knows she was clumsy, and she wants to be good.  In that moment she knows I love her more than the carpet, or the glass, or whatever it might be.  She's what matters most.

And then, my baby girl won't go to sleep, tired as she is.  I breathe in deeply and decide to hold her, just a few more minutes.  We sit in the rocking chair, and she shakes her head playfully with a big smile on her face.  She knows how adorable I think that is.  When I laugh, her tired eyes smile at me and she snuggles her face into my neck.  There's no one but me and her,the night is still and she's captured me, all of me, just for a moment.

In these moments, I realize that this is it.  There's nothing more important.  Nothing more real or sweet or joyful.  This is life at its finest and there's nowhere I'd rather be.

Afton, about to push off and walk.  Will post a video when David's home to help film! 



The Big Move

It’s 4 a.m.  I’m wide awake and I’m tired. Not physically, or mentally, though I have every reason to be.  No, I’m tired of trying to fall asleep, to no avail.  I had an exhausting day, at the tail end of which I took the girls to WalMart to get out of the house.  While there I decided to reward myself for getting through the day.  I bought a chocolate bar.  You know, the healthy (is there such a thing?), all natural, organic dark chocolate kind. Everyone knows chocolate contains caffeine, or something like it.  Traces, you know.  Not enough to have any effect.  Or so I thought.  Now, here I am at 4 a.m., thinking I’ll have to buy another chocolate bar to get me through tomorrow when the consequences of a sleepless night set in.  Sigh.  Well, as long as I’m up, I might as well make the most of it. 

It’s been about three weeks since we pushed off from the nest that was our home in Utah and ventured out into the unknown, otherwise known as Austin, Texas.  When I refer to our home in Utah, I should explain that it wasn’t really our home, though we did spend just over a year there.  It was, in fact, the home of David’s parents.  When we found out in January of 2012 that we were expecting another child, we were thrilled.  After a brief moment of celebration, we quickly realized the reality of our situation.  As thrilled as we were to be having another child (something we both wanted to begin with) our insurance made it such that we would pay most of the costs.  With David in school, and me at home with our one-year-old Paisley, it was obvious we would not have enough money to get by.  So, we decided to take David’s parents up on their long-standing and gracious offer to live in their basement - temporarily.  We lived there for a month before leaving to Austin on an internship, and returned there after the internship.  One month turned into a emester and a semester turned into a year.  Afton Rose was born, David finished school, took (and aced!) the CPA exams and here we are.

 Austin wasn’t completely unknown to us as we had been there for the summer of 2012.  But the thought of being on our own again, now as a family of 4, in a real apartment, with a real job and real bills to pay, in a city far from family, friends and all familiarity - well, it seemed like a whole new world.  The night before we would leave, we spent the night on the floor where our bed had been, in an empty room.  I was filled with excitement and dreams for our future.  I had long been aching for change, adventure and independence.  David was filled with nerves and nostalgia.  He is by far the more sentimental of the two of us, and has a hard time with change in general.  But in spite of our opposite feelings on the matter, one thing was certain: in the morning we would leave, and a new chapter in our lives would begin. 

The morning of Thursday, August 30, 2012, we did just that.  We packed up the car, the girls, and our Betta fish, Phineas, and departed for Austin.  We spread the drive over three days, stopping in Farmington, NM and then Lubbock, TX, with plans to arrive in Austin on Saturday.  As David insisted, he drove the whole way, through the red rocks of southern Utah, the rocky wilderness of New Mexico, and then the industrious farmlands of Texas.  Our only stop of note was when we hit an unexpected red light and Phineas, who had been sitting happily in his bowl at my feet, rolled forward and spilled out onto the mat beneath.  After a slight panic attack on my part, and a quick stop to the side of the road, we were able to scoop up his slippery body and drop him into a water bottle where he survived until we arrived at the hotel. 

On the last day of our drive we had a change of plans that took us to Dallas, TX.  We had arranged everything for our arrival – the apartment, time of arrival, renter’s insurance, etc.  Everything, that is, except utilities.  Realizing that it being a holiday Monday, the electricity company wouldn't be able to come until Tuesday, we took Becca Hay up on her offer to stay in ‘Hotel Becca’ in Dallas for a few days.  Come to find out, the apartment complex does provide electricity and water until we make other arrangements, but the truck would not arrive with our bed until Tuesday at best, so we were glad to be put up for the weekend.  It was wonderful to see Becca and her family.  Her brother Chris made us breakfast of sausage, pancakes and eggs, and smoked ribs out back in the smoker for dinner.  We did our nails and watched movies, and enjoyed the warm atmosphere of the Hay home.  Afton had a fever for the last 2 days we were there, and Brother Hay helped give her a priesthood blessing.  On Tuesday we left for Austin, to get our first glimpse of what this chapter in our lives would hold. 

We arrived at our new home around 2:00 p.m.  It was about 100 degrees outside and humid.  We were given the keys to our new home, and were anxious to finally see this place that we had only imagined for several months before.  We turned the key and entered the cool apartment.  White walls, beige floors, and the smell of new paint welcomed us.  The empty rooms drew me in, my mind already conjuring up plans of room décor and small dinner parties.  Two large bathrooms, two walk-in closets, lots of cupboard space, and a washer and dryer. It was small.  It was clean. It was everything we needed.  But most importantly, it was ours. 

We spent the next two nights without a bed, or anything else for that matter.  Afton slept in the Pack ‘n Play while Paisley slept on the floor between two blankets. David and I shared one comforter between the two of us on the floor in our room.  We were very glad when the truck finally arrived on Thursday, even though it meant us having to unpack the thing all on our own.  We found out that unpacking a truck in the Austin summer heat (with two children to look after) was not a two person job.  By the end of the day, our muscles were sore and our bodies exhausted.  Sleeping in a real bed had never felt so good.

We spent our first few days in Austin trying to get settled.  Find furniture, time out the trip from our house to the office in rush hour traffic, and arrange for the paying of our bills.  On Saturday, I dropped David off at the airport for his trip back to Utah for the football game between BYU and University of Texas.  It was a game he had long awaited, and the plane ticket was a graduation gift from his parents.  While the girls and I spent the day swimming and relaxing, David spent the day flying and enduring what Utahans are now calling ‘Hurricane Utah’.  A storm blew in and the skies unleashed on Provo, Utah like never before. Roads turned to waterways and parking lots to lakes.  Water poured down the stairs south of BYU campus where David and Emily walked to the game.   People in the stadium packed into the tunnels behind the stands like cattle, seeking shelter from rain and lightning.  We were afraid the game that David had flown in to see would be cancelled or postponed.  Two hours later, we were relieved when the storm lifted and the game began.  BYU destroyed UT in a well staged offensive battle against a lacking UT defense. The quarterback was injured along with another important player, and the following day the defensive coordinator was let go.  BYU certainly left their mark.

I took the girls to church by myself the first Sunday in Austin, a feat I wish to never attempt again.  They were all over the place, and I felt that all eyes were on the new mom with two out-of-control babies.  We walked out half way through sacrament meeting and didn’t even try returning until the closing hymn.  The ward was warm and friendly though, and by the third hour, Afton had fallen fast asleep and I was able to enjoy the much-needed peace felt in Relief Society. 

David started work on Wednesday, and on Thursday he left for Houston for training.  Friday, the furniture company attempted to deliver some couches we had ordered, only to find out they would not fit through our narrow entrance.  We sent them back and were back to square one.  As of yet, we still have no furniture but one high chair and a rocking chair.  A neighbor of ours came by to ask for moving boxes, and gave us a small old television in exchange, so we do have a small T.V. that turns on and off spontaneously.  David came was back for the weekend, which was spent trying to watch as much football as possible in between furniture shopping. 

David left Monday morning for more training in San Antonio, and won’t return till Friday.  For me and the girls, Monday was a fun day.  I was a good mom.  I was present with the girls, playing with them and enjoying them.  I was patient, warm, and fun, and the girls – especially Paisley – responded with affection and cooperation.  Tuesday, (today), did not go so smoothly.  Both of the girls have been coming down with coughs and runny noses, along with other cold symptoms.  Paisley was needier than usual and complaining of a stomachache, but still cheery, while Afton was fussier than ever, whining constantly and always needing to be held.  I decided in the morning that it would be good to get out of the house as a distraction.  Paisley had been asking to go to the park, so we did.  Within 3 minutes of arriving, Paisley announced that she needed to use the potty.  I quickly scooped her up, prepared to make a dash for the restrooms, only to realize that she had already begun.  Upon removing her pants, I discovered the cause of her stomachache. Diarrhea.  It was down her leg and soaked through her pants, and I was at a park, with two babies to take care of.  I wiped Paisley up, threw a diaper on her, and drove home. 


In the evening, I dared again to venture out of the house, this time with Paisley still in diapers.  We went to WalMart to buy some more medicine for our ever-fussy Afton.  Along with the aforementioned dark chocolate, I also bought some Junior Mints, which Paisley promptly dug into.  While driving, I passed Junior Mints back to Paisley.  Unbeknownst to me, she was kind enough o share with her sister, who has never eaten chocolate or any other type of candy.  At first she wasn’t sure what to do with the soft, gooey little drop, and playing with it in her hands must have been as appealing as anything.  Once it was all over her hands, however, the next logical step was to try to lick it off, of course.  And for the remainder of the drive to Ikea, Afton gleefully attempted to suck the chocolate from her hands, smearing it all over her face.  And what she could not get off with her mouth, she was happy to wipe on her pants and car seat straps.  When we arrived and Ikea to find that I had forgotten the wet wipes at home, I decided there was nothing to do but laugh.  At least she was happy, she smelled nice, and best of all, it wasn’t diarrhea.  

Thursday, June 27, 2013

It Just Keeps Getting Better

May 2013 and I'm almost caught up. If I thought April was eventful, May did its best to rival it!

 First off, before Afton gets lost in the mix, she's 7 months old!  She's happy, smiley, and tons of fun.  She sits on her own, eats all kinds of pureed foods, pulls herself up on things, and is sleeping better than ever, though still not through the night.  She got her first two teeth in Canada (more about our trip to follow), and she was inspired to crawl by her cousin, we think, because she just wants to go go go!

Lately we've spent Friday mornings at the tumbling gym with Taylor and Violet.  The kids have a blast!  

When my mom came to visit on her way back from Hawaii, she brought the girls some pretty little Hawaiian dresses.  Paisley must have been thrilled with hers cause she has never posed better!

This is what May evenings look like around here.  It's days like these that make me sad to be leaving Utah.

Well, the best part about this month has two parts: 1. David took his first CPA exam and rocked it!  (Of course we didn't know he rocked it until a few weeks later). 2. Exam taken, we were finally able to leave for Canada to attend my brother's wedding.  So on May 18, we got in the car and drove the 17 hours it took us to get to Calgary.  We were both dreading the drive with two little girls in tow, but they did great!  The first Sunday we spent some time at my dad's house.  It was his first time meeting Afton and it was so nice to see him with the girls.    


That night we had a sleepover with Sydney (sister to be) while Ryan, David and Nate went to the mountains for a little bachelor party camping trip.  It was so nice to have some girl time and hang out with Sydney.  It was also nice seeing these two girls get to know each other:
My two babies, Ginger and Paisley, hitting it off.
On Tuesday, we went to Lake Louise with Dad and Pam.  Dad carried Paisley in the hiking pack he bought for us, and David carried Afton on his front.  We hiked up to the Tea house, and by the time we got up there, we had hiked a few miles on top of/through waist deep snow!  On the way up, we saw mountain goats, and some people not too far ahead of us said they saw a cougar!  The weather wasn't ideal and the snow was rough, but it was great to get out with my dad just like old times.  

We were lucky enough to be in Calgary for my baby sister's high school graduation!  It's been a long time coming, but I was so proud to watch Andrea cross that stage and receive her diploma.  Here's to my beautiful baby sister and many accomplishments to come!

On the same day Andrea graduated, Marisa and Philippe got into Calgary with their two kids, Eli and Asha.  I wish our stays could have overlapped for a few more days, but I'll take what I can get!  It was good to have a day just to relax and hang out with my sis, and finally get to know Philippe a little better. We met little Asha for the first time, and loved seeing the kids interact.  I've decided if there is a love almost as great as a parent's, it's gotta be the love of an aunt.  I mean, how can you not adore these kids?

Don't mind my hair in this one.  Did I mention it rained almost the whole time we were there?
And finally, the reason we came.  Of course, I took next to no pictures of the main event, but luckily the had a professional for that.  Ryan and Sydney were a radiant couple and their wedding was absolutely beautiful.  They are amazing together, and I am genuinely thrilled to have Sydney as a new sister.  Congrats Ryan and Sydney!


Overall, the trip to Canada was wonderful.  We ate some good food, attended great events, and did some fun things, but most of all it was just nice to see all those people that I love so much.  

On the 27th, we got in the car and headed back to Utah.  We had a whole day to recover.  Then on the morning of the 29th we took the train to the airport where we embarked on our trip to the Netherlands.  More about that in the next post.